ODE TO MY WIFE

IN FACE OF HER DEADBEAT EX

I never thought I would see the extremes from both sides of the fence, but I have.

My wife Janet is a caring and wonderful person that I met in 2005. She has two children who she loves very, very much and would do anything for. She is a very giving and caring person who would do anything for anyone. That is why it kills me to see her ex being able to get away with what he is getting away with. He is a man who is very emotional and mentally abusive but can play the victim like no one's business.

We moved away from her ex when I had to relocate for work and it started to fall apart quickly. The first thing her ex said to her was, 'Don't you think it's time you started to pay child support?'. She did and in excess to what the support tables stated. That went on for seven months and then we received a phone call from her children's school counselor saying, 'I can't in good conscience send the children back to their father's house.' He was being very emotional and mentally abusive. My wife immediately had her Aunt pick them up so that she could go and pick them up the next day.

When she got there her ex was waiting to ambush her. He berated her and her children but she was able to get back home with them.

Starting in February of 2007 we had both of them full time. When she mentioned to him that she would expect him to pay support based on the tables, which was approximately $800 per month he flipped. He paid what he thought he should which was $400 per month. She fought with him regarding the fact that he was delinquent to his responsibilities and he told her that he was moving here anyways and didn't feel that he needed to pay. This is when we had to start getting a lawyer involved.

Now he has moved here and we have her daughter full time and her son one week and he has him one week. He still believes he doesn't have to pay and took a job that pays $20,000 less a year. He continues to tell his children the following:

To his daughter

"Your mom is brainwashing you. She is making you not want to live with me."

"This court date is bullshit, it's not fair."

To his son

"I don't want to share you with your mom with joint custody unless your sister comes to live here half time."

"If I have to end up paying support we won't be able to afford to do fun stuff anymore."

"If I have to end up paying support they may as well put the cuffs on me and put me in jail."

"Your mom just wants you staying with her for the money."

The funny thing is he just purchased a couple pieces of equipment for pleasure in excess of $10,000.

What makes this very strange to me is the fact that I was paying my child support very quickly after my divorce and am paying in excess of what I need to be in spite of my ex's attempts to alienate my children from me.

How come courts drop the ball in cases like this? My wife's ex makes double of what she does and pays nothing for his kids and my wife is suffering because of it. She can't buy her kids what she would like to or do the stuff she would like to with them because of this deadbeat.

I welcome any feedback if anyone is experiencing the same crap that my wife is and hope someday that he will get the justice he deserves and the rewards that my wife deserves.

In the meantime I have a site that I am trying to make some extra money to cover court and the lack of support from her deadbeat at http://www.ifrighten.com

Any emails can be sent to: info@deadbeatdad.50webs.com